I'm curious about something. Why are we self-centered? Why are we oblivious drivers, unaware of other motorists? How come we think we're the only ones who need to park close to the store entrance? Why do we talk on our cell phones in public, as if our voices are melodious to fellow shoppers or diners.? Why do we pout when someone else gets that last rotisserie chicken at the grocery store, having just missed our chance because the bus was late getting back from the city?

 I considered all sorts of causes for these infractions against gentility: emotional intelligence, upbringing, chemical imbalances, IQ, tidal effects, astrological sign influences. I think it's much simpler than these things. I think of all our flaws, being forgetful is one that humans are supremely crippled with. We'd be chagrined to confess our guilt to any of these childish behaviors, but guilty we are. And if not of these examples, then of others. And it's only a matter of remembering to do so that would make us more mindful of and considerate to others. Easier said . . .

After 9-11 everyone was so friendly. Our psyches were shocked out of our own concerns and into thinking of those around us nearly every moment of the day. It didn't last. The shock subsided and our barriers went back up. We were soon back to living inside the tight confines of our own thoughts and personal spaces.

I'm not pointing fingers or complaining about others. I'm curious about how I can more frequently remember to consider others. Perhaps a wrist band would help? Maybe journaling or blogging on the topic will make it more prevalent in my thoughts? Sometimes I think a shock collar might be the only solution. But before I embark on such extreme measures, I think I'll start with being a little kinder to myself; that I'm aware of my transgressions and have a desire to change perhaps means there is hope.

For some very simple tips on being more mindful read the blog "Three approaches to mindful attention, on and off the cushion" at wildmind.org.